I keep all of my social media accounts current with photos, quotes, articles, prepped meals, workouts and anything #health #wellness #lifestyle related; however, it’s been quite a while since I’ve blessed this space with a blog entry. So here goes. For starters, Happy New Year! Today, I write from my dining room table on the Martin Luther King Jr. holiday (January 16). I can't say enough how grateful I am for my mother, ancestors, leaders, known and unknown, whose shoulders I stand on. It's because of God and them I can! I don't take it for granted.
So around this time, it's customary for people all over the globe to make resolutions. There’s something fresh and aspirational about a new year and the possibilities. It’s an opportunity to reset. I think we’ve all convinced ourselves that we must wait for a new year, new week, new month, new season to start something. Though I get the psychology behind that thinking, the reality is you can start, plan, develop, or continue a goal in the middle of Winter, the end of Spring, or on October 31.
We wait so much to do things. We procrastinate and wait for the right moment. The right moment is now. In 2016, there were many iconic legends in music, arts, entertainment to pass away. Maybe you even had someone in your life to pass away. It really is the cycle of life. It’s always sad when it happens, but it does happen. In the meantime, it would behoove all of us to work towards those goals that have been buried deep within the walls of our minds and in the corners of our spirits.
What’s stopping you? I know you work 50 hours a week. Have small children. Or maybe don’t even have a great support system. Those factors are not to be trivialized at all. But when will those conditions ever change? They probably won’t. Not until (you/we) change.
I’ll be your cheerleader. I’m rooting for you and myself to put one small step in front of the other every day.
Birthday: I'm Really Grown AF
On January 18, I turn 35 years old. Like I seriously don't know when and how that happened. Trust me I'm not complaining. Thankful for life and health and I bless God for many, many, many more healthful, productive and loving years. But I really don't know when this (aging) thing happened. Maybe somewhere between traveling the globe, changing careers and lifting weights. I joke. I know 35 is not remarkably old; but, in my opinion it is an age in which there is a turning point that happens or must happen that can greatly affect a good portion of your mature adult years.
When you turn 16, you can legally drive; by 18 you can vote; 21 you can legally drink alcohol; at 25 you’re somewhat getting a grip of the working world and responsibilities; 30, you are no longer in that age decade where you can blame poor choices on being young and dumb. At 35, you are a for real grown ass man/woman. LOL! Like you were "grown" before at 26, 29 and 32, but something about 35 and it's relation to 40 just makes the aging process REAL AF!
Society has told us by certain ages we should have accomplished or acquired (usually material and societal) representations of success and maturity – such as a house, children, upward movements in career, a spouse. And though those things are great, I have none of those, save for the career moves. I rent an apartment (which I love and is cozy). I don’t have any biological children (though I’ve taught hundreds of children & adults over my education career from the United States to the Middle East); I don’t have a husband yet (though I’ve experienced and learned so much from past lovers and relationships that showed me sides to myself I didn’t know existed) and I’ve switched careers, only to go back to my first career teaching a subject matter that I acquired in my 2nd career (Human Services-Public Health). HAHAHA! I’ve traveled to countries in the Western Hemisphere and Trans-Atlantic. I’ve lived overseas and made friends literally from all over the world. At 35, I don’t have (yet) the conventional pathway of: education > marriage > buy/build a house > have children > settle into a routine life. Which I’m not against that life either. There is great stability and comfort in that pathway. But my life is my own and nothing about me has ever been conventional. You literally have to accept your lot in life and work with what you've been given. I accept and am thankful for mine.
Another thing about turning 35 (at least for me me), is that I realize I don’t know everything (like I thought I did at 25). But I know enough to fully accept myself for who I am; and I fully accept others for who they are flaws and all...or nothing at all. There’s beauty in acceptance and realization. I also know that I’ve been a late bloomer in many areas in my life and I foresee that conventional path happening for me at a later stage in life and I embrace it when it does happens. God’s timing is always the better timing.
If you’ve been under a rock for the last 2 years in terms of American politics, let me just say lucky you. Lol I literally don’t have the energy nor do I want to take this blog post to address what the President-Elect of the United Sates represents. Nope, not going to do that. Although, if I ever feel like it somewhere down the line on my blog, I will. Because our elected leaders do heavily impact our #health#wellness and #lifestyle. But today…I won’t. His inauguration the same week of my birthday, same week of the Martin Luther King Jr. holiday is such a great symbol of the yin-yang to life. The light and the dark. Fire and water. The joys and pains. It’s a part of the life cycle. You have a season of being on top of the world… and then out of nowhere BOOM! Something comes and clips you in the back of your knees from behind and you’re on your face wondering what happened. And as the cycle goes…some kind of way, you get up, you recover (maybe not the same as you were before), but you recover and keep going. That is the approach that I will take with this president-elect. My/Our lives and goals don’t stop because of one or even several energy forces. Do what you got to do to elevate yourself to a place of wellness. To quote the famous Hip-Hop lyricist Kendrick Lamar...
God is my anchor and I have so many skill-sets, gifts, talents, favor and hustle where me and mine will be alright. And just for the record, I want to take the time to celebrate President Barack Obama, First Lady Michelle Obama, their daughters Sasha and Malia and their grandmother Mrs. Robinson. For 8 years, they’ve done so much for the country and the world and have done it with class, character and unity. No matter what happens to his policies with this next administration…his legacy of being a president for ALL people will never be forgotten. Thank you President Barack Obama and the entire Obama family.
Manifestation of goals happens just like anything else. You plan, prepare, work towards them. One of the best ways to accomplish goals is to write them down with objectives or steps on how you will accomplish them. I created a free goal and objective setting printable worksheet under the Freebies Tab on the main page of this blog.
Your goals and dreams are you. They are your legacy. They are most likely aligned to your purpose. They must be written down and viewed daily.
As I celebrate my 35th birthday. Martin Luther King Jr, a New Year and life in general, I have to tell God and the universe just how grateful I am. I have so much to be thankful for. But I also am reminded of the speed of time and how it’s seems to go by faster these days. Just the kind of motivation I need.